Why go back to the present? After all, there's only the here and now. We're right in the middle of it.
An interesting question, isn't it?
The past is what has happened, but we often replay it in our minds in the present. If it was pleasant, it brings us a good present; if it was bad, we can suffer greatly from it in the here and now. And then there's the future.
Our current future is shaped by positive facts or by fears, and both, in turn, have their effects in the present.
Time is exclusively the present, unlike what has passed or what is yet to come. We cannot change the past; our opportunities lie in the here and now and what we intend to do.
So, we need to live much more in the present. But how do we do that? And why isn't it normal?
This, again, relates to the duality of life and the tension that exists between them, which can make life unpleasant quite quickly.
We have a primal program within us, solely designed to protect us. This program runs unconsciously all the time. There are even names for it, like the 'inner slacker' and many other terms.
However, this is only one part of this program, but understanding it a little can help you develop yourself very easily and effectively.
We are born into a very dangerous environment. If our parents hadn't lovingly raised us and brought us so far, we wouldn't have survived.
We owe our current state to the experiences and processes that have become firmly ingrained in us over all these years.
Our current position will depend on how well or poorly that has worked out.
If we are fortunate enough to have a secure home and an environment filled with love and abundance, we will lead a much better life than those who did not.
However, everyone can work on their present, if they are aware of how to do so and have the will to change their situation.
First, you need to understand how our nature works. Our brain stores all experiences and sorts them into different levels of usefulness: good, bad, useful, dangerous, helpful, etc.
We have a guardian who protects us. He does only one thing: he compares every new experience with existing ones, and if something new comes up, he simply raises the alarm.
This guardian, which can also be called the 'inner slacker', simply has this task: to sharpen our senses to new things and put us into a cautious mode.
The guardian doesn't do this to annoy us; he does it to be very helpful to us.
Like a protective filter for life. To make us react, he does it with fear or bad feelings, so that we really do react and don't suppress him.
The guardian is exclusively there to check this single, but very important thing: what is new and potentially a danger, and what is proven and okay.
Simple, yet very fundamental and efficient.
What impact does this have on life?
A very significant one: Firstly, you can't do anything new without being held back by fear, doubt, and laziness. Secondly, we tend to always stay in the area where this guardian doesn't bother us.
Anyone who wants to change their life for the better must know how to deal with their guardian. The good news: we are not helplessly at his mercy. He has a function that we can use. This function is called trust.
If new things keep coming and he recognises that they pose no danger, he starts to accept the new and allows a new habit to form, which then runs by itself.
This is how you can simplify and perfect your entire life. I estimate it takes 20-30 repetitions, and then everything just flows. Where fears and doubts once held you back, there is suddenly joy and fun.
Finally, something important: How do we manage to come into the present, to create relaxation?
Depending on the situation and the number of problems, our guardian can sometimes go a bit wild, and you hardly have any peace left.
With a simple question, you can create presence, because it establishes reality, and we then land directly in the here and now.
Whenever fears and unease arise, ask yourself the question: "What problem do I have right here, right now?"
In most cases, you'll come to the clear answer that there isn't an acute one, and you can recentre yourself a little, between worries for the future and burdens from yesterday.
The more you practice this, the better you will feel. If you manage to look at yourself with a little distance and positively influence yourself with this information, you can improve many things and create good.
Become the master of your guardian. Be aware that if you know someone, you can deal with them much better. Even if that someone is yourself.